Are you one message away from losing your shit?
Let’s UNFUCK your coparenting.
Traditional coparenting advice doesn’t work when the other parent thrives on chaos, control, and driving you batshit. It’s not your fault — you can’t change your ex. But you can change how much power they have over your peace.
My name’s Livi, or Liv. I’m a parallel parenting coach and the founder of Unfuck Your Coparenting — and I’m someone who deals with this bullshit every single day, with my own ex, my partner's, and my clients’.
I spent years in a toxic marriage, thinking I was the problem. If I could just say it the right way. If I could just stay calmer. If I could just try harder.
Every attempt to fold myself into emotional origami to keep the peace failed miserably.
The only thing that came out of that marriage that truly mattered was my kids — and I refused to let them grow up thinking chaos, control, and emotional manipulation were normal.
So I left.
And then I learned something no one tells you: divorce doesn’t end high conflict. It just gives it a courtroom and a shared calendar.
In fact, family court hands high-conflict personalities a shiny new toolbox. But once you understand the patterns, their behavior stops feeling random. And when it stops feeling random, you stop spiraling.
You can’t fix someone who thrives on chaos and control. But you can stop allowing yourself to be their emotional punching bag — and protect your kids from growing up ringside.
And that’s what I teach.
I feel crazy — like maybe I’m the prob…
Let me stop you right there.
You cannot coparent with someone who hates your fucking guts. It’s never going to work. You didn’t fail; the advice you were given was built for a different reality.
While you’re here, a few things you should know about what I believe:
You’re allowed to have a life.
Do things that bring you joy will soothe your soul, reset your nervous system, and make you the best version of yourself for your kids.
Leaving doesn’t fuck up your kids.
Staying in a toxic, abusive relationship does.
Coparenting isn’t always what’s best for kids.
Stability, predictability, and living free from toxic chaos are, even if it is only 50% of the time.
Divorce isn’t a tragedy.
It’s fucking hard, but it’s over. Congratu-fucking-lations.
High-conflict people are fucking predictable.
It sucks, but once you learn the patterns, you stop reacting.
You’re allowed to move on.
Date if you want to. Stay single if you want to. Your life is no longer organized around someone else’s expectations.
The best revenge isn’t winning.
It’s building a good life with healthy boundaries that doesn’t revolve around their bullshit
They don’t teach this in school.
I didn’t wake up one day and think, You know what sounds fun? High-conflict co-parenting.
This happened because I started telling the truth about my own experience — and people kept saying, “That’s exactly it. I’ve never heard it explained like that.”
Turns out when you name the pattern, it stops feeling like you’re crazy.
My background is in strategic planning, systems design, and performance management. So when I looked at high-conflict parenting, I didn’t see a personality issue. I saw a systems problem — predictable inputs, predictable escalation, predictable outcomes.
Feel-good advice doesn’t solve systemic problems.
What does?
Practical tools. Emotional steadiness. And the ability to build a life that doesn’t revolve around your coparent’s next mood swing.
I’m not a therapist. I’m not a lawyer. I’m a mom who lived this shit and learned how to navigate it without lighting my own nervous system on fire.
This work isn’t about making co-parenting “easy.”
It’s about unfucking it. That means less chaos, more confidence, and protecting your time, your energy, and the version of you your kids deserve to see.
“Even just saying everything out loud to a complete stranger did wonders for my mental health as far as that goes. I feel like my anxiety drastically reduced.”
— B., Missouri Mom
Ready to stop reacting and start living again?
Let’s build the strategy that gets you there — let’s UNFUCK your coparenting.